Monthly Archives: January 2014

I am a mother, an employee, a tutor, a cook, and so on and so forth – all in one. While being a good mother does not require a formal education, it does take a lot of hard work and creativity to raise responsible children in this unpredictable world with unforeseen circumstances. A normal day begins with getting my boys ready for school early in the morning; dragging out of bed, walking to the bathroom slowly takes anywhere from 10 – 15 minutes. Meanwhile, the clock is ticking. I get so irritated that sometimes I brush my 10 year old’s teeth just to speed up the process. My 8 years old son is even worse; every time I try to help, he tells me that my touch is very rough. I don’t even know where he got that from. Let alone helping them do their homework is a lot harder than I could ever imagine.
Growing up in the village, our opinion as children was not welcome; although at times we disagreed with our parents on important issues, we knew how to shut our mouths to avert trouble. And trouble meant receiving whipping as a form of punishment. The only time we said hallelujah to the whipping is when we went to boarding schools in near-by towns. The whipping made me hate village life so much so that I didn’t want to have anything to do with it.
One morning, as we were walking to school, I remember looking up in the sky as an aeroplane flew-by, thinking, only if that plane, somehow, landed on one of these trees, I would run so fast to board and go just about anywhere, somewhere, where I didn’t have to deal with the madness of village life.
My siblings and I studied so hard at night using what we called katolitoli in Ila – we made a small hole in the middle of an empty Vaseline bottle-top, through which we put a small cloth, filled the bottle with paraffin, and viola, ha, ha, we, in fact had light; although we woke up with black nose, the katolitoli was good enough to provide us with light. When I tell my children about the hell we went through just to get an education, they laugh out loud as though it’s funny.
There was only one thing both of my parents did not have time for, school work; all that my parents really cared about were our grades, not our homework. They honestly believed that we were responsible for school work, our school work; and that their responsibility was to see to it that we (children) had food, clothing, and a place to sleep. This strategy, though it sounds cruel, did in fact work. It made us very intelligent in class as we all wanted to get away from their village so badly, and therefore, failure was not an option.
If you think the katolitoli was bad enough, think about the time it took us to get to school and back home, on bare foot, every day. And to make a situation that’s already worse a colossal, all roads to school were gravel roads. It took us about four hours or more one way. Now, you can imagine doing that for seven solid years, or even more if you didn’t work hard enough in class to qualify to go to a secondary school; this was one good hell that made us realize the importance of education.
At a very tender age I knew that I wasn’t going to spend the rest of my life in the village, but I also knew that education was probably the only way out of that horror – a one way ticket to freedom. Those who thought school was a waste of time are still in the village, climbing trees to speak on their cell phones. That, exactly is what I did not see myself doing for a living, for I knew without doubt that there had to be better way of doing things. If you think that’s funny, well, good for you; this is real and it’s happening as we speak.


Usage of words in the English language is as complex as it is varied to give you blood pleasure. Although English sentence construction follows a few basic patterns, it sometimes can become tricky in a hurry. However, if you understand these contradicting patterns, then you can avoid building awkward sentences that leave your readers scratching their heads trying to understand your message.

Which is why it is of uttermost importance that you know which words are suitable in certain situations? It is also important that you know that certain words in the English language change meaning depending upon how they are used or relate to surrounding words in a sentence. For instance, ‘go figure’ in American English means go find out; whereas ‘figure’ in English means a person.

Since who is a subjective case pronoun, it can be used in the same types of constructions that she, he, and they can. For example, who called last night? She called last night; he called last night; and they called last night. You have to understand though, that it is the formations that determine which word is to be used in a sentence. Idiomatic usage of English words has become the new norm in communities, workplace, and etc. Making it almost impossible to determine which the correct form is? I am sitting; it was raining; who did you send the package to? LOL!

Since whom is an objective case pronoun, it can be used in the same types of constructions that her, him, and them can. For example, with whom did you speak last night? I spoke with her last night; I spoke with him last night; and I spoke with them last night. If you substitute the pronouns he and him, it will become apparent which is the correct structure.